Monday, January 2, 2012

I Just Can't Win

  I was thinking the other day as to why I try so hard to have presentable looking kids when we head out the door. 

By this I mean:

1. No slippers or pjs worn out in public.
2. Your hair must be done.
3. Holes, really? NO! (sometimes they do slip out the door before I realize!)
4. No dress up clothes.
5. No dirt or ketchup on faces.
6. Matching clothes are a miss matched "I like it!" toddler style.

  Technically this should be a given for any human with any etiquette at all. With that said, it makes for a very frustrated toddler or youngen that wants to put their own spin on things. 

  As an example, my friend allowed her toddler to wear his favorite slippers to the store. I started thinking that I'm super stuffy, and I should be laid back enough to let our children do that on special occasion. Then it dawned on me! When we take our family out in public, people stare. They count heads. They make a little gasp as you walk by. You see in there eyes the date calculator spinning to see if I'm really old enough to have this many children. Sometimes they're just plain rude. It would be just asking for it if I did allow my kids to do it! 

  Can you imagine the thoughts of the folks walking by? "Don't you have shoes for her?" "No wonder he's wearing camo pants and a striped shirt...they must not be able to afford much else." LOL   
I'd have them handing me money and giving me a pitiful look, and telling me "Use this to get them something new..."

  It seriously would happen! I know very well that I shouldn't really care so much what others think, but when you are already in a totally different court than most everyone, it's like adding gasoline to an already smoking stack. It ignites a very sour reaction to most people and they usually don't have a problem voicing their opinions, strongly. So why add fuel to the fire? Maybe that's wrong, but I would rather be a good example in public that makes someone realize big families aren't taboo, then one that confirms people's already made up minds about how ridiculous big families are.   

  It's kind of a double standard of sorts. You're a FUN mom when you have one toddler in tow and he's in his Superman costume...

Yet a SOCIAL DISGRACE of a mom if you take our 6 children dressed in their favorite cowboy/cowgirl costumes...

Make sense? Hmmm....

So for now I will just be FUN mom when I only take one or two of the kids out with me! :)  



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